Friday, October 4, 2013

Sunny side up babies

This is just another term for babies who are born in the less desired face up position or posterior occiput position. The best position for easy delivery is anterior occiput position. When the baby is inside, it is head down with its back along your front.

Previous to the other day, I didn't give these positions too much thought. I thought one way to tell if your baby is posterior is to have back labor. However it turns out that there is little correlation between what women feel in their back and the position of the baby.

About a week before I delivered Josh, at the OB, they had trouble finding his heart beat. I didn't panic because he happened to be kicking at that moment. I assumed a beating heart had to be there somewhere. They were able to find it with he Doptone versus the stethoscope. Because his back was against my back, his heart was not easy to get at. No one told me at the time that I was in for a world of hurt if he continued to be in that position. At any rate, his head was not engaged and even in labor, he could have turned.

My labor was the longest with him though not the most painful. I did not have any pain in my back and despite him being in the wrong position, I had no trouble pushing him out. We do have a fuzzy movie showing his head emerging and his arms springing out as soon as they cleared my body. Josh was face up. His face was much more beat up than other newborns. No one said it was due to his bad presentation but just due to his massive size (10# 1oz) a lot of that was his big head.

I was a birth coach for my sister in law who had painful back labor. It was just assumed that her daughter was in a posterior position. No attempt was made to turn her or to be in a better position to deal with the pain. They do not give VBACs drugs (vaginal birth after C-section). Though I was right there, I don't remember if her daughter came in face up.

I know Naomi was face down.

I remember seeing fetus Shanna in an X-ray taken because she did not drop but actually she had. Her head  seemed to be on its side. I assume she slipped into the best position because things went smoothly from that point on.

For some reason, first time moms are more likely to have sunny side up babies. Half of people go into labor with the sunny side up babies but 80% of these babies manage to come out facing down. 25% of people complain about back labor but as it turns out, some of them have the baby in the good position and some like me, have the baby in the not so desirable position and don't feel any back pain.


Thursday, October 3, 2013

Baby Girl comes home


Not sure if this is a real smile or random muscle twitching though at one point I did believe she smiled at me


Josh is not sure if the pacifier is a curse or a godsend

Finally asleep
Julie's milk came in; Alison came home with only a slight drop from her birth weight. All (mostly) is right with the world.

Yesterday we visited them, today we visited Shanna's family.

In the evenings, the hummingbird wars continue (probably during the day too). So much energy is expended making sure the others don't get a drink.

I finally saw this year the sand hill cranes though I have been hearing them. Too far away for my iphone and they were gone when I returned with the real camera.

And cheddar cauliflower is back.

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

The Little Mermaid


Maya found her Halloween costume yesterday while I was watching her and insisted on wearing it. She loves tutus, ruffles, glitter and all that is baby glam.

Spurred by the recent birth, I've been looking through baby books. Even though Maya was much smaller than my children and the other grandchildren before two, she now at 3 is the exact height and weight Shanna was at age 3. At 18 months, Shanna, Tessa, Maya, Daniel and Oliver were exactly the same height (32 inches) which is tall, especially for the girls. They had widely differing weights though with Shanna the heaviest and Oliver the lightest. It is fun to watch them grow. I suspect Ms. Allie will have them all beat eventually.

Also from the babybook:

Lots of identical features between father and daughter at the exact same age. Soon after I had sent this to Josh (and he must have shown it to the MIL) the following was sent to me:
Well I agree that Allie's chin definitely came from the Mom (and her mom) but the rest of Allie's features, to me, are clearly Josh's.

Mom and daughter today:

Tuesday, October 1, 2013

Eggs and Sausage

So you need a bathroom...which do you choose?

Lots of toasters on the wall
One of the few advantages of Julie choosing to give birth in that out of the way hospital, St. Chop-A-Lot, is that it is located in the Land of Good Breakfast Places. We decided to eat in one of them before yesterday's visit though my absolute favorite one was closed on Monday. This one, Toast, features a variety of very good toast. I had cheese jalapeno toast with my artichoke/red pepper omelet served with my favorite cheesy grits. On top of the cheesy grits, I put Foodie Sauce, a gemisch of cherries, peppers and carrots. All very tasty. Steve returned from the bathroom all annoyed though it does not take much; give him only chopsticks to eat in an Asian restaurant and he'll whine. He didn't appreciate having to think when choosing a door.

Eggs or Sausage?

Well who has eggs? How well did you do on the analogy section of the SAT anyway? He was in a position to watch puzzled people pause before the bathroom doors. The men hesitated the most. And when I when back to photograph it, I noticed the colors: Pink versus blue...and you hesitated?

As for Julie selecting the Chophouse to give birth at, she was born there and didn't realize she would be moving so far away. There is a spanking new shiny hospital less than five miles from her. She is choosing a pediatrician there. I was reading their promotion stuff for the birthing center (no word on C-section rates). To promote mother/baby bonding, they don't clean either up for an hour so they could get used to each other's smell. Also, they delay putting the antibiotic ointment in immediately because newborn babies are at their most alert for the first hour and you don't want to mess up their first vision of the world (mainly Mom)with vaseline.

Naomi's divorce was finalized this morning. Most of the ground work was done during mediation last week. Today Don'tae the plaintiff had to read the decree out loud. He kept reading 'filed' as 'filled'. He had a very hard time with 'reconciliation" (there will be none of that). It was a one size fits all form. He started reading "During the period of separation, I became pregnant..." before realizing this might not pertain to him. They were the only couple there not represented by lawyers. The lawyers did the hard work of reading the complaint and their clients just had to say Yes. We have become experts in self-help divorces.

All that is left is to pick up paperwork next week.

Monday, September 30, 2013

Allison

Ms Allie loves to sleep
The first picture of Allie taken in the delivery room . Eyes are covered with antibiotic goo

Fancy hospital fountain

lobby

Hospital garden of fake plants

The peanut gallery waiting for Allie to be born Steve is taking the picture. Julie's dad and Naomi and some woman who didn't have time to fix her hair doing a crossword puzzle
Miss Allie finally opening her eyes of her 2nd day of life

With mom
with Dad

Sunday, September 29, 2013

A weekend of new cousins

On Friday, Ms. Maya got a new little girl cousin from one of Dontae's sisters. Today Julie gave birth to a baby girl; tomorrow Dontae's brother will have a little boy. This must be a record for new cousin acquisition from 3 separate births.

What a ride it's been.
Nationally the C-section rate is 30%. At this particular hospital that Julie went to: 40%. Co-incidentally, their use of epidurals is 95%. Meanwhile at the University of Michigan Midwifery service, the rate is 14% up from the 12% quoted when Naomi was a patient. Yeah they cherry pick their patients. Back in the good old 60s, C-section rates were around 4%.

Reason for today's C-section? Massive baby. A baby for the record that is more petite than my 3 mega babies and I am a smaller person than the mom. Also failure to progress. Also posterior lie. Also fatigue.

She had been in labor most of yesterday. Finally the contractions seemed intense and close together. They live quite far from the hospital so they were camped out at her mother's a 12 mile drive instead of a 25 mile one. We live  about 50 miles away.  I didn't want to miss the birth of my granddaughter so at about 10 pm, we made the long trip. What I should have done was wait until she was admitted before making the drive. As she was only slightly dilated, they wanted her to go home. But she was feeling too much pain for that to be an option. They sedated her so she could sleep and we went home. I told Josh, when she is at 5 cm,(active labor) call me. He did at 7am and said her water  broke. Please hurry! So on the road again to hurry up and wait. From then on, epidurals, pitocin, more epidurals, more pit such than the heart rate went way down. They would take her off everything and the labor would stop. A real big mess. Last night a midwife suggested that they rotate the baby into a better position but the MD on call nixed that idea. Today the OB way too late suggested the same thing. Don't these people talk to each other? But in the end, she just wasn't progressing fast enough so a C section was offered.

I will provide details about my new cute grandbaby another time. She is healthy and we are grateful. At one point Josh slowly approached us for an update looking so upset that we all assumed he was reporting a death. It took him a while to speak as he was so overcome with various emotions. He finally was able to choke out that everyone was still OK but it didn't look like that for a while.

Saturday, September 28, 2013

Maybe Baby

So Julie has been having contractions since 9 that seem to be increasing in frequency so today or early tomorrow may be it...or not. We will see.

It is a pretty day though it started out so foggy. I kept off the main roads due to my invisibility. Amazing how few cars have their lights on.

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